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As we get older mum can symbolize

The first relationship we have with another human being is with our mother. She loved us before we were born and apart from God, I doubt there will be anyone else who will love us more. By virtue of this I believe the person that has loved us at first sight is our mother.

During the first few years of our lives, mum’s our doctor, teacher, housekeeper, cook and so much more. Throughout the world when we hear the word MA a feeling of warmth and love envelopes us, like no other word can.

As we get older mum can symbolize, the person that embarrasses us infront of our friends, or tortures us with her unwanted kisses. Even though we may treat her like the scum below our shoes, her love for her children never falters or fades.

Then comes the phase when we believe our mothers are being overprotective or downright selfish when she doesn’t want us to go out with that tattooed guy with the motorbike, ‘just because she never had someone who loved her that way.’ Teenage years can bring with it mixed feelings between a mother and her child, if not handled properly it can destroy the relationship forever.

When we ourselves become parents that’s when we realize how cruel we had been to our mothers, or do we?

Sometimes the rift between mothers and daughters can lead to lifelong separation and hurt. Ma, being the Universal word for love can never be reduced   nor can it be destroyed. A mother’s heart is the pulse of energy of compassion and protection.

At no time should we allow ourselves to be sucked into a vacuum, empty and void of our mothers love. Oftentimes the only thing destroying relationships are our egos. When we move past our egos and are able to apologise and forgive freely, then only can we love like only a mother can.

Author: Suyan BudhooLife Coaching Pretoria

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Important of Relationship with Ourself

HAPPY FEBRUARY

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During the month of love, we at Success Focus are focusing on relationships, the relationship with yourself, your loved one’s, colleagues and the rest of the world. Be sure to catch all the articles in this series.

My Relationship with Myself

Whatever comes after the words I am is entirely up to you. You can choose words like I am weak, worthless, depressed, sad and have results such as sickness, depression and even death show up in your life or you can choose words like I am strong, happy, wealthy, healthy and prosperous. As soon as you said those positive words, didn’t you sit up and feel confident, like a waterfall washing over you, leaving you refreshed. I Am, affirmations create a sense that “I Am” worthy and powerful. Nobody should ever forget that they matter in this world.

Nobody can make you feel the way do, except you. So why not choose to live in harmony with the world rather than in resistance. Living in harmony does not mean you have to forget about your uniqueness, it just means that no matter what challenges show up in your life, you will achieve that which is important to you. Use the challenges as opportunities, opportunities to overcome your fears and develop your strength.

As parents we sometimes rob ourselves of loving and caring for ourselves, thinking that our children should always come first, at any cost. By doing this we are turning our children into bullies and self-centred monsters. They will start to believe that they are all important, and mums feelings are not. The world out there will teach them a very different lesson, no matter how special mum thinks they are. Mum’s need for peace and happiness is in no way less than her sons need for playing soccer.

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We are all whole and complete, the only person that can make us feel any less is the person in the mirror. To keep that person in the mirror happy you need to remind yourself daily that God moulded you in his image, shouldn’t you love yourself the way God loved you.

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Still having problems managing change at home?

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It is common to find that the nuclear family has evolved into an extended or complex family unit, with one or both parents remarrying after a divorce. Often times neither the parents nor the children know how to cope with such changes. We continue with our daily lives, hoping that it will sort itself out without there being any confrontations. That kind of mindset is just asking for trouble. Nothing really goes away, depending on the type of kids you have, they will either become very vocal about things or they will suppress their feelings causing distance and a strain on all relationships.

Human beings are creatures of habit and we are most comfortable when things stay the same. Any change in our environment can therefore cause us to behave unreasonably and to even think irrationally. As adults we prefer to find things where we left them, and why shouldn’t we expect our children to feel the same way, after all, kids mirror their parent’s behavior. If things are not the way we left them, we sometimes ‘fly off the handle’, shouting and screaming at anyone who can hear us. This is exactly the way some children react to mummy’s new boyfriend or daddy’s new wife. Not only do things not stay the same, another human being who will take away mummy’s attention and rob them of time with daddy has been added to the mix, obviously they are going to throw their toys out of the cot.

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What then can be done to contain the situation?

  • Include everyone in family chores and activities, your new partner and children need to learn to get along, meal times and picnics could be great for forging relationships.
  • Communication is important, let your kids know that you still love them.
  • Don’t assume anything, children require clear and simple explanations about what is happening, what is expected and what is to follow. They will be more understanding and accepting of the change.

Still having problems managing change at home? Don’t stress, with the help of a relationship coach, together we can easily restore the peace in your home.

Author: Suyan Budhoo – The South African Life Coach in Pretoria

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These are the memories his children will cherish of their superhero.

Dad, a girls first superman and a boys first James Bond, maybe that’s taking it a little too far, nonetheless you get the picture. Fathers, in the past have been portrayed as that man that leaves for work early in the morning and returns late, usually sitting infront of the tv or behind a newspaper. They did not play a major role in their children’s educational, recreational or spiritual lives, however their role seems to have changed over the past few decades.

Fathers now play a more active role in their children’s education, attending school meetings, helping with homework and even playing chauffeur. Perhaps circumstances, with both parents having to work, forced these added responsibilities onto them or could it be that they are genuinely interested?

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Parents and Kids Relationship

Whatever the reason, this new age dad is just the answer to today’s social problems. Studies have shown that children living with both parents are emotionally more stable and display a higher level of confidence than children coming from single parent families. It has also been proven that homes with both parents have better financial stability. Despite all the encouragement from government and civil society, South Africa still sits with the dilemma that only 33% of children under the age of 5 come from homes with both parents living together.

Whether it is because of divorce or people just deciding not to marry, the truth is, children need their fathers to be part of their lives. It is important for a father to provide financially for his children as well as to have contact time, physical affection, day-to-day involvement and supportive communication.

The type of relationship a child has with his/her father can determine the kind of relationship he/she will forge with their spouse, co-workers and even their own children. Being a good father does not only mean fulfilling the obligations set out by the law. A good father is that man who will stay up late while his son studies for his matric exams or while his daughter completes her art assignment. He is that man who will take his son to the golf course on a Saturday, instead of spending it with his friends and he is that man who will spend an entire day shopping with his daughter for that perfect pair of shoes. At the end of the day, these are the memories his children will cherish of their superhero.

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Suyan Budhoo – South African Life Coach

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Suyan is a combination of a painful past, a great present and an even greater future. She is a mother of two teenagers with life experience beyond her years. She is a firm believer of the past not having much influence on who we are now and who we are capable of becoming, therefore she chooses not to dwell on her history.

She has worked in the legal environment in excess of 10 years with experience in corporate law in the private and public sector. In law we are usually expected to find solutions to every problem, she therefore believes that becoming a coach was a natural progression for her. Knowing business culture definitely gives her an edge when it comes to coaching executives and project coaching. That being said she believes that every person is unique and has their own way in which they accept and process information. She combines her experience in the legal field with her skills and tools as a coach to help her clients achieve their goals as ceo’s, directors and managers quicker and more efficiently.

Spiritual is what we become as a result of our experiences on the inside, and it is definitely not interchangeable with the word religion, as religion is what comes from the outside. As a spiritual coach she chooses to believe that greatness lies within each and every human being. She lives by the maxim that “if faith in ourselves had been more extensively taught and practised, a very large portion of the evils and miseries that we have would have vanished.” Her aim therefore is to see every individual achieve their highest potential.

By virtue of the fact that we are human we have relationships, some fail to make it into our present and we cannot live without others. There are people in this world that will not like you no matter what you do, yet there are others who would love you despite all your imperfections. Sometimes we do not know who we are, yet we expect others to understand us, we place unfair expectations on others and forget to check if we are meeting those expectations ourselves. She recently came across this quote by Charles F Glassman “ Before you discover your soulmate you must first discover your soul” this definitely resonates with who she is.

Due to all the failures and tragedies that she personally experienced and overcame Suyan is now on a path to help others overcome the challenges they are experiencing. She believes that her purpose on earth is to bring about a sense of pride, fulfilment and possibility to everyone she has the good fortune of meeting. Through her writing, public speaking and coaching she wishes to advocate the message that anything is possible, all you have to do is BELIEVE.

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Never Give Up

Yes life is hard, not just yours. Everyone has at sometime or the other been brought to their knees in pain, anguish, despair or fear. If you’ve lived long enough you are sure to have had some sort of “down time”. At the time it may have seemed like a dark cloud hovering over you as if it would never lift, but it did and you are still here reading this post.

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When life throws us curve balls, it comes with no warnings or instructions on how to deal with it. We are left to fumble our way through difficult, unexplored situations with little or no skills on how to deal with all “the stuff” that is thrown our way.

A few years ago the highest cause of suicide was lost love, but today it’s debt. Life is forever changing, nothing remains the same. If yesterday, you were unhappy, then who’s to say you can’t be wildly blissful today. If yesterday you were jobless, who’s to say today you can’t receive a fantastic job offer. If yesterday you were hurting because you thought you lost the love of your life, who’s to say you can’t find your soulmate today. As cliché as this may sound, after every storm there is a rainbow.

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Motivation is in Your-Self

If, as you read this, you are going through a difficult time financially, a divorce, or your life as you know it is not going the way you would like it to, then take it from me, someone who had the misfortune to go through all of these disasters simultaneously, you are not alone, and this too will pass. It’s not unusual to think that God is unfair or he has something against us being happy, I had those thoughts a few times and I’m sure I’m not alone. But when you are mature enough and have seen some of the problems that people face, you cannot help but feel grateful for your problems too. This may sound obscure to some, but in comparison to terminal cancer and being jobless or homeless, my problems seemed insignificant.

I obviously still felt weighed down by my problems, except now I felt a lot luckier than most. I believe this is what got me through those difficult days, knowing that there are people out there that still have the courage to face a new day without knowing where their next meal will come from or if this will be their last day. If they could face such unsurmountable circumstances with grace then so could I.

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During my most difficult days I was reminded of this quote “What is worse than losing everything, it is losing the faith that we can gain everything back.” In those words lie the secret of overcoming any difficult situation. Have faith that tomorrow, or next week or maybe next year things will look better, but never give up or lose that faith. Your tears will be replaced by smiles, your lack by abundance and your pain by love.

Suyan Budhoo” – South African Life Coach