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Still having problems managing change at home?

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It is common to find that the nuclear family has evolved into an extended or complex family unit, with one or both parents remarrying after a divorce. Often times neither the parents nor the children know how to cope with such changes. We continue with our daily lives, hoping that it will sort itself out without there being any confrontations. That kind of mindset is just asking for trouble. Nothing really goes away, depending on the type of kids you have, they will either become very vocal about things or they will suppress their feelings causing distance and a strain on all relationships.

Human beings are creatures of habit and we are most comfortable when things stay the same. Any change in our environment can therefore cause us to behave unreasonably and to even think irrationally. As adults we prefer to find things where we left them, and why shouldn’t we expect our children to feel the same way, after all, kids mirror their parent’s behavior. If things are not the way we left them, we sometimes ‘fly off the handle’, shouting and screaming at anyone who can hear us. This is exactly the way some children react to mummy’s new boyfriend or daddy’s new wife. Not only do things not stay the same, another human being who will take away mummy’s attention and rob them of time with daddy has been added to the mix, obviously they are going to throw their toys out of the cot.

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What then can be done to contain the situation?

  • Include everyone in family chores and activities, your new partner and children need to learn to get along, meal times and picnics could be great for forging relationships.
  • Communication is important, let your kids know that you still love them.
  • Don’t assume anything, children require clear and simple explanations about what is happening, what is expected and what is to follow. They will be more understanding and accepting of the change.

Still having problems managing change at home? Don’t stress, with the help of a relationship coach, together we can easily restore the peace in your home.

Author: Suyan Budhoo – The South African Life Coach in Pretoria

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Please Call us at 082 339 8393  or Contact Relationship Coaching Pretoria 

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Self-development is the only answer.

Despite having more comforts than the generations before us, we seem to have less happiness and peace than our predecessors. Living a fulfilled life sometimes sounds like an unobtainable myth. Self-development is the only answer.

Self-development is not a new concept and can be found in the relics of every religion on earth. Today I will attempt to combine ancient wisdom with modern relevance to give you some pertinent advice on how to live a more fulfilled life.

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Because we do not live on this earth alone it is important that we have a code of honour, dignity and respect towards ourselves, our fellow human beings, and all other living beings. It is the basis of individual progress and social welfare. Righteous conduct develops character.

  • Material Wealth

Material wealth is a basic human necessity. Without material security we cannot keep our body and soul satisfied. One cannot have thoughts of emotional and spiritual growth if his material needs are not fulfilled.

  • Satisfaction of legitimate desires

Desires when unrestrained lead to disintegration of the body and mind, yet when suppressed , create an unhealthy state of body and mind, making life drab. What then is legitimate desire? Pursuit of wealth and enjoyment, unless guided by righteous conduct, can make a person greedy and selfish.

  • Freedom of Spirit

The quest for freedom is what distinguishes a human being from other creatures. Freedom is the ultimate goal of life. A man lives a fulfilled life when he discovers that his soul is the soul of all living beings and things, and that his happiness and peace depends on the happiness of all.

Self-development is an inner maturity which comes during the course of time and with experience. No one can give these experiences to us, they come to a person who is ready to face life’s challenges. Self-development is a life-long process, it is learning from the successes of others as well as from their mistakes. An old proverb says “Learn from others mistakes, because you cannot live long enough to make all the mistakes” .

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103 Queenswood Galleries,
1180 Whittle Lane,
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All FEAR means is to Face Everything And Rise

Procrastination kills creativity, purpose and our dreams even before we give ourselves a chance. At the beginning of every new venture, business or personal goal, we are often filled with bright and beautiful ideas. However , these ideas are meaningless and can die a quick death if we do not take action.

Taking action requires us to overcome challenges such as laziness, self-doubt and fear, the result of which is procrastination. Most people have great intentions to take action, and many have no idea, why they even put things off to a later date.

Fear of failure is often one of the reasons people don’t even take action, don’t kill your dreams at birth. As a baby needs constant care and support so too does a new business or relationship. I am sure you will not abandon a baby for not being able to walk instantly, yet many people are ready to throw in the towel at the first challenge they face. For people who are afraid to fail, they should remember that all FEAR means is to Face Everything And Rise. As a child, everytime you fell you stood up again, why then is it so difficult to do it now, when it matters, when you matter, when your goals and dreams matter the most.

Self-doubt also is one of the reasons people procrastinate. Some of the most famous, wealthiest people in the world have had their ideas rejected, but that did not stop them from pursuing their dreams. The greatest reason for their success is that they had faith in themselves, and their idea. Even if nobody else believes in you, what matters the most is that you believe in yourself. Self-doubt can deny you the life you dream about. Your freedom lies in your ability to conquer your challenges, the biggest challenge for many being self-doubt.

Although almost everyone dreams of a better life for themselves and their families, not everyone has what it takes to manifest that better life. By putting off what we can do now, we are putting off what we can have now. We can make excuses that we do not have enough time, or play the blame game, but when we truly think about it, not taking action is just a sign of laziness. Everyone can stay the same and choose to live a mediocre life, but if you want to have a prosperous life you must be willing to do the things you haven’t done before, you must be willing to sacrifice your time and most importantly stop blaming.

In order for you to move from a life of procrastination to a life of prosperity, overcoming fear, self doubt and laziness is key. “There is no one in your way except you.”

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103 Queenswood Galleries,
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Beginning of every year many of us resolve to exercise more

life coach pretoriaAt the beginning of every year many of us resolve to exercise more, quit smoking or make some kind of life changing resolution but within weeks or even a few short days, we fail to stick to these resolutions. It may have been difficult trying to accomplish these goals in the past because you did not have a blueprint to follow. Don’t despair, 2016 is going to be the year in which you eventually lose the unwanted weight, quit smoking or achieve all that your heart desires.

The first step in reaching any goal is desire. Desire is a strong craving towards achieving something great. Desires are borne of the values that are important to us. Every human being is unique and holds close to them a different set of values. Only you know what you desire. Nobody can or should be allowed to tell you what is important to you. Once you have discovered your goals, you should not let anything stand between you and your achievements.

We cannot achieve our goals without an action plan. In pursuit of our hearts desire we cannot think of the steps that we need to take as work or laborious, I therefore like to refer to it as a design. Design brings to mind creative, fun, the product of which is a beautiful master piece. This is how I view every human life, a master piece. A master piece should be treated with care, as should your life. Designing your life shows that you care about yourself, and if you care about something wouldn’t you like to see it blossom into the best it can be?

Nothing great ever comes by chance or luck. Every person that ever succeeded will tell you that it took dedication to get them there. Life happens to everyone, there will challenges, fear and doubt that will show up without a warning. What you need to do is stay focused with the end goal in mind, and the one thing that will take you to the end is your dedication and commitment to be the best that you can be.

Make your 2016, the year in which you made every dream come true. Live your master life, be all that you were meant to be. Focus on Success, remember all it takes is desire, design and dedication.

Contact us if it’s unstoppable success you desire.

Success Focus – A Life Coach Pretoria
103 Queenswood Galleries,
1180 Whittle Lane,
Queenswood, Pretoria
Cell : 0823398393
E-Mail: suyan.budhoo@yahoo.com
info@successfocus.co.za
http://www.successfocus.co.za/life-coaching/

Spoke of the Religion of his people

Working for Others

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The secret of Religion lies not in theory but in practice. To be good and do good that is the whole of religion.” By Swami Vivekananda. Swami Vivekananda lay down the path for Hinduism in the West at the First Parliament of Religions in Chicago in 1893. He spoke not of himself or his achievements, he did not even speak of his Guru, Sri Ramakrishna Parahamsa, but he spoke of the Religion of his people.

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We, the custodians of various faiths, ought to take a page out the books of these great men, who paved the way for us. The original speakers envisioned a world where all men lived in harmony albeit their differences. Every religion speaks of love and kindness as its foundation, how then can religion be blamed. Religion therefore is not to blame, but men. If it is men that have caused all the evil that exists in the world, it is men who will restore the world to its original beauty and harmony. To effect this restoration we therefore need men of faith, strength and courage to face those who have destroyed the peace in the world.

It is our duty to go wherever there is an outbreak of disease, hunger or wherever there is distress and mitigate the sufferings of the masses. We are not here to hold titles and attend conferences only. We must act, take it upon our shoulders to destroy the evils of this world.

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We must feel the pain of those suffering, until we can’t bare to just watch anymore. We have to set ourselves to work, work for the good of others, to lessen the suffering and to eradicate misconceptions that religion is to blame for all the suffering. Work in harmony, work as one, it doesn’t matter what religion you are, your suffering is my suffering and when you smile then I shall rest. Till then do not sit idle, thinking that it will all be done in time later. Nothing will be done, unless you get up and take action.

“They alone live who live for others, the rest are more dead than alive.”

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The technical world it cannot compensate for our emotional needs

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Why is it that so many people struggle to find and maintain harmonious relationships, and choose to be single instead? Whatever the reason, neither Science nor Religion dictates that man should live his life alone, infact both promote the union of marriage.

At the rate the world is moving, finding time for communication or anything that does not include a technical gizmo can be a challenge. You would think that with Google and Wikipedia finding the solution to all our problems would be simpler and faster.  I have realised that knowledge alone doesn’t make you a better person, it is what you do with that knowledge that makes a difference.

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Experience has taught me that mastering micro-expressions or personality types in theory means nothing if you do not take the time to interact with people on a humane level.  The only way you can do this is by communicating, so for those people who believe that they can make do with social media, they are sorely mistaken.

Having thousands of friends on facebook can never compensate for one real life friend.  Someone to share your innermost fears with, to act crazy with or cry with when your dog dies.  And that is the reality of life.  No matter how far we travel in the technical world it cannot compensate for our emotional needs which everybody has by virtue of being human.

According to Hinduism there are 4 primary reasons why people should get married, i.e to fulfil their dharma (duty) , artha (possessions), kama (physical desires) and moksha (ultimate spiritual release) together.  It may be true that one or other pursuits can be obtained as a single person, but in order to live a complete life Hinduism encourages marriage.

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In Christianity marriage is regarded as Holy, Jesus Christ himself stated “that God had created mankind as male and female and that in marriage the two will become one flesh.  So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate”

Marriages that last a lifetime need more than just love to stand the test of time, and external influences. It requires a deep understanding of ones self, values and goals before you can understand a spouse.  If your aspirations are towards finding a soul-mate, you must first discover your own soul.

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Suyan Budhoo – South African Life Coach

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Suyan is a combination of a painful past, a great present and an even greater future. She is a mother of two teenagers with life experience beyond her years. She is a firm believer of the past not having much influence on who we are now and who we are capable of becoming, therefore she chooses not to dwell on her history.

She has worked in the legal environment in excess of 10 years with experience in corporate law in the private and public sector. In law we are usually expected to find solutions to every problem, she therefore believes that becoming a coach was a natural progression for her. Knowing business culture definitely gives her an edge when it comes to coaching executives and project coaching. That being said she believes that every person is unique and has their own way in which they accept and process information. She combines her experience in the legal field with her skills and tools as a coach to help her clients achieve their goals as ceo’s, directors and managers quicker and more efficiently.

Spiritual is what we become as a result of our experiences on the inside, and it is definitely not interchangeable with the word religion, as religion is what comes from the outside. As a spiritual coach she chooses to believe that greatness lies within each and every human being. She lives by the maxim that “if faith in ourselves had been more extensively taught and practised, a very large portion of the evils and miseries that we have would have vanished.” Her aim therefore is to see every individual achieve their highest potential.

By virtue of the fact that we are human we have relationships, some fail to make it into our present and we cannot live without others. There are people in this world that will not like you no matter what you do, yet there are others who would love you despite all your imperfections. Sometimes we do not know who we are, yet we expect others to understand us, we place unfair expectations on others and forget to check if we are meeting those expectations ourselves. She recently came across this quote by Charles F Glassman “ Before you discover your soulmate you must first discover your soul” this definitely resonates with who she is.

Due to all the failures and tragedies that she personally experienced and overcame Suyan is now on a path to help others overcome the challenges they are experiencing. She believes that her purpose on earth is to bring about a sense of pride, fulfilment and possibility to everyone she has the good fortune of meeting. Through her writing, public speaking and coaching she wishes to advocate the message that anything is possible, all you have to do is BELIEVE.

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Never Give Up

Yes life is hard, not just yours. Everyone has at sometime or the other been brought to their knees in pain, anguish, despair or fear. If you’ve lived long enough you are sure to have had some sort of “down time”. At the time it may have seemed like a dark cloud hovering over you as if it would never lift, but it did and you are still here reading this post.

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When life throws us curve balls, it comes with no warnings or instructions on how to deal with it. We are left to fumble our way through difficult, unexplored situations with little or no skills on how to deal with all “the stuff” that is thrown our way.

A few years ago the highest cause of suicide was lost love, but today it’s debt. Life is forever changing, nothing remains the same. If yesterday, you were unhappy, then who’s to say you can’t be wildly blissful today. If yesterday you were jobless, who’s to say today you can’t receive a fantastic job offer. If yesterday you were hurting because you thought you lost the love of your life, who’s to say you can’t find your soulmate today. As cliché as this may sound, after every storm there is a rainbow.

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Motivation is in Your-Self

If, as you read this, you are going through a difficult time financially, a divorce, or your life as you know it is not going the way you would like it to, then take it from me, someone who had the misfortune to go through all of these disasters simultaneously, you are not alone, and this too will pass. It’s not unusual to think that God is unfair or he has something against us being happy, I had those thoughts a few times and I’m sure I’m not alone. But when you are mature enough and have seen some of the problems that people face, you cannot help but feel grateful for your problems too. This may sound obscure to some, but in comparison to terminal cancer and being jobless or homeless, my problems seemed insignificant.

I obviously still felt weighed down by my problems, except now I felt a lot luckier than most. I believe this is what got me through those difficult days, knowing that there are people out there that still have the courage to face a new day without knowing where their next meal will come from or if this will be their last day. If they could face such unsurmountable circumstances with grace then so could I.

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During my most difficult days I was reminded of this quote “What is worse than losing everything, it is losing the faith that we can gain everything back.” In those words lie the secret of overcoming any difficult situation. Have faith that tomorrow, or next week or maybe next year things will look better, but never give up or lose that faith. Your tears will be replaced by smiles, your lack by abundance and your pain by love.

Suyan Budhoo” – South African Life Coach