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These are the memories his children will cherish of their superhero.

Dad, a girls first superman and a boys first James Bond, maybe that’s taking it a little too far, nonetheless you get the picture. Fathers, in the past have been portrayed as that man that leaves for work early in the morning and returns late, usually sitting infront of the tv or behind a newspaper. They did not play a major role in their children’s educational, recreational or spiritual lives, however their role seems to have changed over the past few decades.

Fathers now play a more active role in their children’s education, attending school meetings, helping with homework and even playing chauffeur. Perhaps circumstances, with both parents having to work, forced these added responsibilities onto them or could it be that they are genuinely interested?

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Whatever the reason, this new age dad is just the answer to today’s social problems. Studies have shown that children living with both parents are emotionally more stable and display a higher level of confidence than children coming from single parent families. It has also been proven that homes with both parents have better financial stability. Despite all the encouragement from government and civil society, South Africa still sits with the dilemma that only 33% of children under the age of 5 come from homes with both parents living together.

Whether it is because of divorce or people just deciding not to marry, the truth is, children need their fathers to be part of their lives. It is important for a father to provide financially for his children as well as to have contact time, physical affection, day-to-day involvement and supportive communication.

The type of relationship a child has with his/her father can determine the kind of relationship he/she will forge with their spouse, co-workers and even their own children. Being a good father does not only mean fulfilling the obligations set out by the law. A good father is that man who will stay up late while his son studies for his matric exams or while his daughter completes her art assignment. He is that man who will take his son to the golf course on a Saturday, instead of spending it with his friends and he is that man who will spend an entire day shopping with his daughter for that perfect pair of shoes. At the end of the day, these are the memories his children will cherish of their superhero.

Suyan Budhoo – Life Coach Pretoria

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The technical world it cannot compensate for our emotional needs

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Why is it that so many people struggle to find and maintain harmonious relationships, and choose to be single instead? Whatever the reason, neither Science nor Religion dictates that man should live his life alone, infact both promote the union of marriage.

At the rate the world is moving, finding time for communication or anything that does not include a technical gizmo can be a challenge. You would think that with Google and Wikipedia finding the solution to all our problems would be simpler and faster.  I have realised that knowledge alone doesn’t make you a better person, it is what you do with that knowledge that makes a difference.

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Experience has taught me that mastering micro-expressions or personality types in theory means nothing if you do not take the time to interact with people on a humane level.  The only way you can do this is by communicating, so for those people who believe that they can make do with social media, they are sorely mistaken.

Having thousands of friends on facebook can never compensate for one real life friend.  Someone to share your innermost fears with, to act crazy with or cry with when your dog dies.  And that is the reality of life.  No matter how far we travel in the technical world it cannot compensate for our emotional needs which everybody has by virtue of being human.

According to Hinduism there are 4 primary reasons why people should get married, i.e to fulfil their dharma (duty) , artha (possessions), kama (physical desires) and moksha (ultimate spiritual release) together.  It may be true that one or other pursuits can be obtained as a single person, but in order to live a complete life Hinduism encourages marriage.

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In Christianity marriage is regarded as Holy, Jesus Christ himself stated “that God had created mankind as male and female and that in marriage the two will become one flesh.  So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate”

Marriages that last a lifetime need more than just love to stand the test of time, and external influences. It requires a deep understanding of ones self, values and goals before you can understand a spouse.  If your aspirations are towards finding a soul-mate, you must first discover your own soul.

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